Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and Body Languange

23 Body Language Tricks That Make You Instantly Likeable

You send people signals all day, without paying attention to them, says Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro. The way you move your eyes, the way you shake a hand and so on. There are things you can do to send subconscious signals using body language that make people like you better, or at least give you the benefit of the doubt. Whenever I discuss techniques like these there are always one or two people who feel uncomfortable with ‘influencing’ someone with psychological tricks.

Manipulation is not negative

  • Influencing is changing someone’s behavior or mind
  • Manipulation is intentionally influencing

When you hear the word manipulation, you may immediately think of negative things. Please don’t.

Manipulation is not bad. People with bad intentions are bad.

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Example 1: Manipulative sneaky person

Bad people are bad. Bad people who manipulate are problematic. An example of this:

  • Mean Girl wants to reduce the social standing of Sweet Classmate
  • She tells the other classmate this person did something horrible
  • The class likes Sweet Classmate less
  • Sweet Classmate feels sad now

Example 2: Friendly manipulation

Manipulation can make everyone in a situation better off.

  • Party Person is an experienced manipulator
  • Party Person bumps into another person
  • Party Person smiles disarmingly and apologizes, even though the other person was wrong
  • Party Person doesn’t get into a fight and has a great night

The problem with the Mean Girl example is not the manipulation, the problem is bad intentions and lying.

My request: Have good intentions

I’m assuming you will use these tricks with good intentions. Please do so.

Section 1: Attitude & body language

Positive attitude

The human mind is judgmental, it’s what it does. It is what kept us alive during evolution.We make judgments in split seconds:

  • Is this person a threat?
  • Is this person attractive?
  • Is this person useful to my (social) survival?

Pay attention to this instinct, but never act on it without knowing the person better. The tricks below will trigger you to behave in ways that are perceived well.

This section is not strictly about body language, but these attitudes will subconsciously influence your body language.

Feel secure and project confidence

This one is so important it requires its own article, and you can never do this 100% of the time. Plus, there are certainly cases where not seeming confident can gain you likability points, but on average, the above holds true.

There are two things to consider with this point:

  • Try to remove things that make you uncomfortable
    • For me bad skin was an issue, which I solved like this
    • Another was clothing choice, which I solved by bringing along a girl when shopping
  • Train yourself to help you feel secure
    • I learned a lot from self-help audiobooks I downloaded
    • For me staying in shape helped a lot. Read the 4 Hour Body or its summary

Everyone is a friend, unless proven otherwise

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Why burn bridges before you’ve made them in the first place? It makes no sense:

  • You have everything to gain
  • You have nothing to lose

You will notice soon enough if this person would/wants to be a good friend.

Everyone deserves respect, unless proven otherwise

Again, you have everything to gain and nothing to lose by treating people with respect. That doesn’t mean you should kiss boots all day; it means you shouldn’t dismiss anyone or make them feel unimportant.

Like everybody, until they don’t deserve it

Strangers deserve to have the benefit of the doubt. In our world anyone can be anything, without looking like it. I’ve met douchebags who looked kind and billionaires that behaved like excited children. Look at the cover of the book, but read a few pages before judging.

Neither the douchebag or billionaire are ‘better’ than each other. But being around one made me feel unhappy, and the other made me feel gusto and enthusiasm.

Always think about what you can do for others

When you meet someone, don’t think ‘what can they do for me?’ but rather ‘what can I do for them?’ Helping people is the best way to make them want to help you, and everybody wins.

Note that I’m not saying you should give unsolicited advice to make yourself seem smart. Help people if you genuinely and truly believe this person’s life would be better with the knowledge/help/contact that you can offer.

Offer help, but don’t insist. Keep it short and let them decide.

Section 2: Posture

Posture example

Your body is constantly signalling the people you meet. Posture influences the snap second judgement people make about you, but also what you think about yourself. In addition, proper posture is good for your back, what’s not to like?

Stand up straight, but relaxed

To find positive posture, try the following:

  1. Stand with your feet as wide as your hips
  2. Make yourself as tall as possible, imagine being pulled up by the top of your head
  3. Now keep that feeling of being tall but relax your shoulders
  4. Relax your neck and angle your head so you don’t have to look up or down to look an average person in the eyes

Some tips:

  • Relax as much as possible while maintaining your posture
  • Don’t puff your chest, it should be flat as if you are lying on a floor
  • Pull your shoulders back very slightly

Sit up straight, but not rigid

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When you start sitting up straight, you will notice how small most people make themselves. You will instantly feel quite tall when sitting at a table. Keep your back straight, but relax as much as possible.

Always have some tension in your core

Your abs, back and general core should never be flaccid/floppy when you stand or sit. Keep your abs and core in general under some tension. Not only does it reflect well upon your posture, but it also makes it easier to move with grace.

Position your feet at about hip width apart

The stance of your feet says a lot about you. It’s not an exact science, but putting your feet closer together generally signifies insecurity, whereas a wider stance indicates confidence.

Both holding your feet too close together and too far apart can reflect badly upon you. Try to aim for a position where your feet are at hip width or slightly wider apart, but not much.

Section 3: Entering a Room

Walking into a room

The moment you enter a room is the moment you expose yourself to the judgement of the people in that room. Make sure to make use of that.

Some would recommend more extreme techniques like peacocking, but that doesn’t apply to all situations.

Smile like you are happy to be there

Regardless of whether you are, smile when you enter a  room. Smile like you really like what you are seeing. Don’t overdo it, don’t laugh out loud. Smile like you stepped outside and noticed the sun was shining.

Greet the crowd

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Not explicitly. Don’t shout “HEY!” or draw explicit attention unless these are people who appreciate such behavior. Otherwise take a  moment to stand still or walk slowly while looking at the people in the room.

  • Make eye contact

Don’t glance over the crowd like it’s an object. Look people in the eye and if anyone holds your gaze smile at them. Make people feel like a positive influence just entered this room.

  • Take your time

This shows confidence, but also signifies an open attitude.

Wave to (imaginary) friends

Humans are hard-wired to like and/or respect people with friends. When you walk into a room and do your usual ‘greet the crowd’ routine, follow it up by waving to your friends and mouthing something along the lines of “I’ll be right there”.

Here’s the thing, feel free to do this to imaginary friends. I do this all the time at bigger events. Keep in mind that people don’t see 360 degrees. If you wave to an non-existent person behind them they don’t know you are just waving to empty air.

This has a number of effects:

  • People assume you know people
  • You have more time to calmly look around
  • You will feel more confident

The trick here is to do this in full confidence, don’t timidly wave. Wave like your best friend is across the room and you are trying to communicate to them that you’ll be there soon.

Section 4: the Handshake

Handshake

Use a firm but gentle handshake

Men, especially, are sensitive to the way you shake a hand. A weak or ‘dead fish’ handshake will instantly lose you likability points.

  • Don’t just ‘offer’ your hand, a handshake is teamwork
  • Use the pressure you would use to grab the stick of a heavy pan
  • If a  person is offering you a ‘dead fish’ handshake, don’t squeeze too hard

Make eye contact as you shake hands

Looking away automatically signifies negative things:

  • You don’t have attention/respect for the other person
  • You have something to hide

Look into someone’s eyes long enough to memorize their eye color. Don’t stare, just observe for a moment.

Smile like they made your day

When looking into someone’s eyes during the shake, smile as if you saw something in their eyes that makes you happy.

Don’t laugh out loud, just smile.

Section 5: Positioning

Feet positioning

How and where you position yourself makes a difference in how you are perceived. Positioning combined with posture is very powerful.

Open your stance

When you are talking to someone, position your body in such a way that you are open to them. Preferably position yourself in a ‘vulnerable’ way. Don’t cover your chest with your arms, don’t slouch etc. This signifies trust and comfort.

Angle yourself towards the person you are speaking to

It is a subtle change, but making sure that your body is ‘pointing’ to your conversational partner makes a difference. Angling away can signify fearfulness, insecurity and mistrust.

Don’t lean on or against objects

Leaning on/against an object (e.g. a wall) signifies passivity and possibly insecurity. Whenever you can stand up with good posture. Using the tips from the posture section, try to develop a comfortable ‘neutral stance’.

When you do lean, use posture

If you do have to lean against something for whatever reason, keep good posture. Don’t slouch.

Section 6: Your Face

Facial expression

Your face is an area with a lot of signalling. In fact there is a lot of research into micro expressions people make subconsciously. People project a lot of information without knowing it. You can use your face to signal information about yourself to people.

Make your neutral face a happy face

Ever heard of ‘resting bitch face syndrome’? Some people claim their face at rest looks annoyed/angry, which makes people perceive them as a social danger. You preferably wouldn’t talk to a person with that kind of an expression on their face.

It says nothing about the actual person though. But it does disadvantage them.

Make sure that your face at rest (e.g. when you are working on a laptop) looks relaxed, if not happy. An easy trick is to have a look on your face like something is mildly amusing to you.

Don’t break eye contact instantly

People have a habit of looking away if they meet a person’s eyes. Try not do do this. Keep eye contact, and smile. Often people will look away, though some people will hold your gaze.

Doing this has multiple effects:

  • People perceive you as more open
  • You will feel more confident

Please note that when you hold someone’s gaze, be sure to smile. Looking impassively can be very creepy…

How to smile

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There is a very simple trick to smiling: imagine you are seeing something you really like.

Smiling is not about moving your face in a certain way, it is about feeling a happy feeling and letting your face express it.

Read more about how to smile in this Buffer article..

Section 7: Techniques and habits

Here I cover some things you can do that often involve some measure of interaction with your conversational/communication data.

Mirror your posture

A powerful technique that has been researched a lot is mirroring. This means people feel more comfortable around you and like you better if you stand the way they do. For example:

  • They have their arms crossed? Cross your arms
  • They are leaning on their right leg? Lean on your right leg
  • Are they holding a drink? Hold a drink

The key here is not to be obvious. The moment they notice consciously what you are doing, the technique loses power.

Mirror movements

As with the above point, you shouldn’t be obvious. But little things can go a long way:

  • You are having a coffee, they pick up their cup to drink? Do the same
  • If they smile, smile back (that’s an easy one)
  • Are they stepping a bit closer to you? Do the same

Again, don’t be obvious and don’t be a creep. This technique should be used in an unobtrusive manner, but frequently.

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Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and Fitness Apps

Everybody likes to have a healthy lifestyle. But, it is not easy for everyone to follow a workout plan. A solution for such people may be an app that can help them reach their fitness targets, says Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro. These kinds of apps have made the fitness and nutrition solutions readily available to all. But with so many apps on the market, it is not easy to pick the best one.

Acording to Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro, these are some of the free download apps which are considered highly effective when it comes to your health and nutrition.

1. Cody

It is an app which is like the Facebook for fitness. It offers inside connections to the fitness community. Access to the such a community allows you to share workouts and fitness ideas. It also allows you to complete the exercises by following old and new friends. You can track your progress by looking at the timeline. Other users can also comment on the daily exercise activities. It is available for iOS devices and costs nothing.

2. Pact

It is an app that uses money as an incentive. The app was formerly known as GymPact. It encourages the users to pledge a certain amount of money and set up some days. Users need to pay for each day they fail to complete the workout. If the users manage to finish the daily workout, then they get paid. It also has the feature of connecting with other apps. There is also a nutritional option available. It compels the users to eat healthy, complete workouts or pay the consequences.

3. Hot5 Fitness

It offers high-quality workouts that are led by the best trainers. The exercises are offered step by step so that the users can easily follow them. There are so many exercises like yoga, abs, core, flexibility and everything in between in this app. There is an extensive range of five-minute video workouts in this app. There are also 45-minute long yoga videos as well. The app is very simple to use, and its interface is user-friendly. The limited use of the app is free. To get unlimited access, you will have to pay, but it is not very expensive.

4. Moves

It is an app that is an excellent reminder of the importance of little steps. Your day is tracked minute by minute by a pedometer. It provides the summary of your movements. It tells you how many steps or pedals you have covered. It also keeps a record of the calories burned every day. The calorie consumed is presented as a simple timeline that can easily be read and understood. It is available for iOS devices and is free. It can be of great assistance in developing a successful workout routine.

5. Human

If you are looking for a more casual approach towards exercising, then Human is a good app for you. It encourages its users to reach thirty minutes of physical activity. The physical activity is not defined by the app so you can choose it according to your taste and convenience. You can choose anything from dancing, running, jumping, etc. The primary objective of the app is to ensure that you are active for 30 minutes every day. The app will track your movements and inform you about the goals that you have achieved. It is a free app and is available for iOS devices.

6. LoseIt

It is an excellent app for those who are looking to lose weight. This app creates a whole weight loss plan for its users. The method will be suitable to the busy lifestyle, so it is pretty efficient. The app is just as your personal trainer. It is also your nutritionist who is available to you all the time. All you need to do is to put your weight loss goals. It will track your calories. To make the calculation more precise, it gives a barcode scanner. It allows the app to know about the food that you are consuming. Its focus is not just on the calorie intake but also on the nutritional value of the input. It can connect with other devices and apps as well. It is available for Android, iOS, Nook and Kindle. It is also a free app.

7. Healthy out

Healthy out provides healthy and nutritional options available at all of your favorite restaurants. All you need to do is specify your favorite eating place and then tell you nutritional needs and restrictions. You can specify things such as fat-free, heart healthy, gluten free, etc. the apps suggests modifications to the recipes according to the specific nutritional needs of the user. It is a free app that can be downloaded on iOS and Android devices.

8. Mindshift

It is a free app for Android and iOS devices. It is designed to offer help to people struggling with anxiety. It provides several strategies and gives the advice to cope with their situation. The aim of the app is to change the way users think about stress.

9. Noom weight loss coach

It is a combination of nutritional coach and a pedometer. Users can log meals and workouts on this app. It also counts the steps of users through the day. It offers positive encouragement and shares articles and nutritional recipes with their users. The free app’s food database is color coded. It is available for iOS and Android devices.

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Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and Apps and Websites to Follow

According to Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro, with over 1.5 million apps available on the app store alone, it can be confusing to determine which ones you should download and which ones you should ignore. There’s just too much noise out there today. Not only are there more apps than we can fathom, but there’s only so much time and mindspace we have to consume all of them. This is why it’s increasingly important to filter out the apps and websites that will have the biggest impact in our lives, with the least amount of effort.

Here are 17 apps and websites that can change your life, according to Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro.

1. Headspace

Need a peace of mind? Facing stress or anxiety? Or maybe there’s just not enough time of the day to smell the roses.

Headspace may be the answer for you busy bees. With only 10 minutes of your time, this app will guide you through a simple, yet powerful, meditation practice that is guaranteed to help you smile more, sleep better, and love better.

Don’t have 10 minutes?

You may need this more than you think. As the popular Zen proverb goes, “You should sit in meditation for twenty minutes every day — unless you’re too busy. Then you should sit for an hour.”

2. Codeacademy

Coding has become so in demand these days that understanding the basics of coding — such as HTML, CSS, or Javascript — is as standard as knowing how to use Microsoft Powerpoint.

Lucky for us, there are great websites like Codeacademy that are 100% free and are able to guide you through each step of the way — even if you start from scratch. They include practical projects that you can build to apply what you’ve learned, and give you immediate feedback to correct your mistakes. Talk about immersion!

3. Rype

Have you heard of Netflix? Well, think of this as Netflix for language lessons.

Rype offers unlimited one-on-one lessons (in Spanish only right now), live online classes, and premium video lessons, for a simple membership fee.

If you’ve ever wanted to learn Spanish (I’m looking at those of you who live in hispanic-dominant cities) to take your career to the next level, build a deeper relationship with friends or family, or for travel purposes, this is your opportunity.

Booking a lesson takes less than 15 seconds, and lack of time will never be an excuse for you again. Take a look.

If you want to dip your feet into the pool, Rype also offers free live Spanish classes that you can attend. Check out the upcoming live classes.

4. Uber

This app probably needs no introduction.

Despite some sketchy and questionable lawsuits that Uber has been through, you can’t question the convenience and value that this app provides. Whether it’s providing a side hustle for struggling artists and entrepreneurs, or saving us all a major hassle of calling a cab, Uber is a game changer.

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5. F.lux

If you’re like me, then you probably spend a majority of your day staring at a screen, whether it’s your desktop, tablet, or mobile. Eye strain is one of the most common problems we face, and F.lux has solved this issue.

This free widget adjusts the lighting of your screen, depending on the time you set in the preferences, so you’re no longer staring at a flashlight pointing towards your face. Say goodbye to tired-looking eyes!

6. Spritz

When Bill Gates and Warren Buffet were asked what superpower would they want to have, in two different interviews, they both said the ability to read faster. While superpowers may not exist, Spritz can be the next best thing.

This app scans the web page you’re on and displays single words to you in a speed of your choosing. It takes some time to get used to, as our eyes are accustomed to scanning a page from left to right, but with a little bit of patience, you may have just discovered your first superpower! Test it out for yourself!

7. TED

TED, which stands for Technology, Education, and Design, requires no introduction. This global event attracts some of the finest leaders across the world, from Tony Robbins, to Bill Gates, to North Korean refugees. Real people, heartfelt stories, and eye-opening insights are shared on stage.

The best part is that you don’t need to pay $5,000 for a ticket to watch these talks — they’re all available for you to see online for free.

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8. Scribd

Speaking of knowledge, if TED sparked your attention, then Scribd will be another popular choice.

Similar to Rype, Scribd is the Netflix for Ebooks. With a simple monthly payment, you can get read as many books as you would like in their library, where they have hundreds of thousands of books available.

9. CreativeLIVE

Want to learn from the best for free? CreativeLIVE is your answer.

This one-of-a-kind business model provides free live classes online that you can tune into, and if you want the full recording, you can purchase it for a one-time fee.

CreativeLIVE has attracted world-class entrepreneurs, Pulitzer Prize winners, and New York Times Bestselling authors to teach topics like photography, business, marketing, and more.

Want to attend a class? Check out their upcoming classes here.

10. Two Foods

As the saying goes, “we are what we eat.” Every day we make dozens of decisions on what we eat, and therefore what we become. We can decide to save money and eat healthier by waiting an additional 30 minutes to cook at home, or we can pass by the nearest McDonalds.

While some choices are easy when it comes to determining what’s healthier, some are hard. This is where Two Foods comes in.

This simple website allows you to type in the two different food you are debating, and they provide you with the nutritional information for each dish.

11. Wunderlist

It seems that as the day goes by, the bigger our to-do list seems to get. Sometimes we don’t have the time to write it down or organize it into different categories.

Wunderlist solves this problem. This free app allows you to create multiple to-do lists and categorize your different to-do’s. For example, I have one for my business, my personal, my upcoming book, my goals, and more.

12. Memrise

Memorizing things can be hard. Memrise provides an easy solution to make memorizing things fun through gamification.

For example, if you’re learning a new language, learning the most common words is key to picking up the language fast. You can use Memrise to quickly run through the words you want to learn and retain them through memorization techniques.

This can also apply to anything you want to remember, whether it’s the periodic table, parts of the human body, or countries.

13. Mint.com

One of the biggest tasks we tend to procrastinate on is our personal finances. Who’s with me?

Mint aims to solve this procrastination. By integrating our bank accounts into this website, it analyzes our spending, income, and budget in one place for us to see.

You can also set personal budgets for different categories — rent, travel, food, entertainment — and make sure you don’t go over it by tracking it all on Mint. My personal favorite is to be able to see all my spending for the month in a visual pie chart.

14. Kiva

So often, we think that we need to be amass large quantities of wealth before we give back. This couldn’t be further than the truth.

Most of us can spare a $25 loan to an entrepreneur who is making a difference across the world. And here’s the thing, it’s not a donation that you don’t get back, it’s a loan!

As described on Kiva’s website, here’s how it works:

  1. Choose a borrower
  2. Make a loan
  3. Get repaid
  4. Repeat!
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15. Quora

Ever had a crazy question that you were curious to know the answer to?

Chances are, you can find the question and answer on Quora. Unlike most Q & A forums, Quora has managed to attract the best of the best, giving you real answers from real people.

For example, if you want to know what it’s like to work at Facebook, someone from Facebook can give you a direct answer. No BS, no fluff.

Quora has additional uses that go beyond than beating your curiousity. Entrepreneurs can use it to acquire potential customers, and anyone can use it to build an audience. What you do with the website is up to you!

16. Investopedia

Ask an average person on the street and they can tell you more about what’s happening with the Kardashians than they can tell you about their personal finances or what’s happening in the global markets.

Investopedia is the “Webster Dictionary for Investors.” Now you don’t need to be a stock investor to gain benefit from Investopedia. It can useful for general learning about finance, understanding how the markets work, and discovering how you can make or save more money at the end of the day.

17. Epicurious

This is the last app on our list, and perhaps the “sexiest” one. Ask someone in the streets on the top 10 skills they look for in a partner, and most will answer “the ability to cook.”

Epicurious helps you become sexier with simple yet diverse recipe ideas on healthy dishes and meals you can cook from your own kitchen. Give it a go!

Hopefully you’ve discovered something new on this list that you didn’t know before.

If you’ve gotten some value from this, please share this with your friends or family! It could change their lives.

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Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and High Fat Foods for a Better Life

According to Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro, if you are of a certain age, you probably remember the “fat scare” of the 1980’s and 1990’s, when America looked at its growing waistline and decided that the fat in its diet was to blame for its increasing problem with obesity.  Americans were warned about eating high-fat foods and instead were directed towards a low-fat, high-carbohydrate diet. The result? The national average weight actually grew and now, according to the National Institute of Health (NIH), two out of three Americans are overweight or obese.

Believe it or not, adding healthy fats to the diet can actually turn around disturbing trends like these.

Greek Yogurt

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The recent craze for Greek yogurt is not just because it is so delicious. It is incredibly healthy, too! Although this thick, tangy yogurt is high in fat, it contains a special fatty acid called CLA which in many studies has shown to actually help those who are overweight reduce their waistlines and achieve their weight loss goals.  It has also been linked to a reduction in diabetes and heart disease.

The great news is that Greek yogurt doesn’t just bring you healthy fats, it is also a rich source of probiotic bacteria for gut health and calcium to keep your bones healthy and strong and prevent osteoporosis.

Yogurt can be eaten in parfaits or added to smoothies for a delicious and nutritious treat.

 

Fatty Fish

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Fatty fish such as salmon, tuna, mackerel, or trout are another great choice if your aim is to get healthy fats into your diet. These fish are also rich in omega-3 fatty acids as well as other healthy acids like EPA and DHA. In many clinical studies, these have all shown to help reduce inflammation throughout the body. Reducing inflammation reduces your risk of serious diseases like diabetes and cancer.  It also provides you with high-quality protein that you need to build lean muscle mass.

Fish can be eaten baked, pan-seared, or added to dishes like salmon loaf for a quick, easy, and delicious meal.

Olive Oil

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Many dieticians believe that the so-called “Mediterranean” diet is so healthy because of its emphasis on olive oil, among other healthy foods.  Studies have linked this kind of diet which emphasizes olive oil, fish, and fruits and vegetables to lower rates of obesity, type 2 diabetes, and heart disease. In one study published in the journal Molecule, it was found that several compounds in olive oil such as the oleic acid have anti-aging properties as well.

Olive oil can be used for making stir-fried vegetables, pasta sauce, or mixed with lemon juice for a healthy salad dressing.

Avocados

Avocados were also once avoided by dieters because of the fact that they are high in calories and fats. However, the healthy monounsaturated fats that these fruits contain are actually of great benefit to your health.  In a 2014 study, researchers found that when avocados were fed to obese rats their LDL “bad” cholesterol levels and triglyceride levels (both major risk factors for heart disease) actually dropped significantly.

Avocados can be made into classic dishes like guacamole, sliced fresh into salads, or added to smoothies.

Eggs

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Many health organizations warned consumers against eating more than one to two eggs a week because of the fact that they are high in cholesterol. However, the link between cholesterol in the diet and cholesterol that builds up in the arteries is not as strong as people once thought, and the fact that eggs are so rich in omega-3 fatty acids makes them a health food. This is especially true if you can get organic eggs from pastured, vegetarian-fed hens. They are also a great source of high-quality proteins for those following a vegetarian diet. Eggs are incredibly versatile and can be made into omelets, quiche, and egg salads.

Nuts

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Tree nuts such as cashews, almonds, and walnuts are a wonderful source of healthy, unsaturated fats as well as plant-based proteins (making them a great choice for vegan and vegetarians), antioxidants like vitamin E, and dietary fiber to help maintain a healthy digestive system.

One study published in the British Journal of Nutrition found that a diet rich in unsaturated fats like those in nuts can help to reduce the risk of developing heart disease by 30%, diabetes by 50%, and the incidence of strokes by 50%.

Nuts can be made into nut butters or nut milks (like almond or cashew milk) or added to stir-fries and pasta dishes.

Coconut Oil

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People used to skip out on coconut oil especially if they were dieting since it had one of the highest concentrations of saturated fats that you can eat! Nearly 90% of this food is made up of medium-chain fatty acids (MCFA’s), and a fatty acid called lauric acid.  In multiple studies, these MCFAs have been found to reduce inflammation throughout the body (which also reduces the risk of serious conditions like heart disease and cancer) and to provide important antimicrobial properties to reduce the risk of infection as well.  With a rich taste like coconut oil, what’s not to love?

Coconut oil can be used for stir-fries and other frying needs to make dishes both more delicious and healthier.

Dark Chocolate

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What woman isn’t excited about the fact that, far from being unhealthy, a moderate amount of dark chocolate in the diet can actually be good for you? It’s true! A study from Louisiana State University found that people who included dark chocolate in their diet at least five times a week (in other words, almost daily), were several points lower on the body mass index (BMI) than those who did not. Dark chocolate not only gives you healthy fats but anti-aging properties from antioxidants as well! Dark chocolate can be eaten as is or added to smoothies or oatmeal to increase the healthy benefits of these dishes.

All fats were not created equal! The healthy high-fat foods mentioned above can not only add flavor and goodness to your diet, but can also help lower your chances of many serious chronic conditions like heart disease and diabetes and are a necessary part of a truly healthy and balanced diet.

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Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and The Most Romantic Eco-Hotels in Europe

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Think staying in a sustainable hotel means waking up at 6 a.m. to work on the farm? Or using a compostable toilet in an off-the-grid shack?

You care deeply about the environment, yet you want to be pampered while vacationing with your significant other. You want fluffy comforters made of organic cotton, and candlelit dinners made with local ingredients. These are not oxymorons. A crop of conscious yet chic hotels have appeared catering to the couple who cares.

So grab your honey and get packing—organic room service, bubble baths with nontoxic bubbles, and a restorative sleep (or otherwise) on a soft, natural mattress await.

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Almodóvar Hotel

This upscale Berlin hotel is centrally located, making it the perfect starting spot for touring around Berlin. Each room is decorated differently to give you a unique experience. Your stay includes a large organic, local, and vegetarian continental breakfast, with vegan options, too. Rent a bike from the hotel to tour around; book a massage in the rooftop spa.

Other small sustainable things they do include purchasing renewable energy, having nontoxic paint and sustainable wood floors and furniture, using nontoxic cleaning products, and working with partners that emphasize eco and fair production. It’s perfect for those seeking a comfortable experience that still feels like you’re in the real Berlin, not in a touristy district.

Boxhagener Straße 83, Friedrichshain, Berlin

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Ecomama Hotel

This Amsterdam hotel is actually a hostel but so charming and comfortable, I had to include it. Pass through the vegetarian coffee shop up front, where locals gets coffee, and check in at the desk made of upcycled books. You’ll get a tour of the large kitchen with two Smeg refrigerators and places to store your food, a large dining room table, board games and magazines, cozy seating, and even a hangout tent.

If you don’t want the hostel experience, you can book a private deluxe room with a view onto a canal, which comes with robes and Stop the Water When Using Me toiletries in the ensuite bathroom. With it located in the center of the city, once you rent a bike, it will take you only 10 minutes to get to almost anywhere you want to go.

Valkenburgerstraat 124, Centrum, Amsterdam

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Hostal Grau

This eco-chic and LEED Gold–certified boutique hotel is located right off Las Ramblas, the main square of Barcelona. It features eco-friendly Coco-Mat and Naturalmat mattresses in every room, upcycled furniture, double-glazed windows and natural rock wool insulation for less energy usage, nontoxic paint, natural soap, PVC-free everything, and FSC-certified wood. You can rent a bike and explore the city after having tea and homemade cake for breakfast!

Calle Ramelleres, 27, Barcelona

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One Aldwych

A Green Business Award winner, with a gold grading from the Green Tourism for Business Scheme and Green Tourism for London, this five-star London hotel is also one of six hotels worldwide to gain the Luxury Eco Certification Standard from the Sustainable Travel International.

It recycles all paper, cardboard, glass, cooking oil, light bulbs, batteries, and some plastics. It provides paraben-free and synthetic preservative-free toiletries from T London, and biodegradable packaging for room amenities. Their kitchen sources local, seasonal food whenever possible, with an emphasis on organic and Fair Trade ingredients. It has a no-bleach policy and a chlorine-free pool that uses a mineral-based cleaning system. You can even make your reservation carbon neutral!

1 Aldwych, London

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La Granja

A members-only agrotourismo in Ibiza, this quaint and luxurious retreat far from the crowds of clubby Ibiza offers not only a centuries-old farmhouse room to stay in, but an entire experience. Start with an organic meal on the back deck overlooking the pool, with ingredients sourced from La Granjas own farm and other Ibiza farms. Meet other like-minded individuals at intimate parties DJed by international talent, or participate in a ritual, lecture, workshop, or yoga class.

Carretera Forada a Sant Mateu KM 1, Ibiza

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Hidden Hotel

There’s no better place to stay in Paris with your honey than this cozy and sustainable hotel, located a three-minute walk from L’Arc de Triomphe and the grand shopping avenue, Champs-Élysées. Parisians have a reputation for being rude, but the staff at this hotel are as friendly as a American Midwesterner—cheerful and always available to help, maybe by bringing something up from the fully stocked bar that is open 24 hours.

The cozy rooms, full of blond wood and a stone sink, are cleverly designed to maximize the space. The beds use the supremely eco-friendly Coco-Mat mattress. The windows open out onto the quiet and pretty street. For breakfast avail yourself of the large, organic continental breakfast.

28 Rue de l’Arc de Triomphe, Paris

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Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and 5 steps to a Happier Day

There’s so much negativity in the world right now, says Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro. It’s important that you understand how significant the little things are in life and how they impact your overall level of happiness on a daily basis.

Here are 5 practical tips you can implement as soon as today!

1. Wake Up Earlier

You don’t have to wake up before the rooster crows, but you should get out of bed earlier than usual. By waking up 30 minutes to an hour earlier, you’ll discover that you have that much more time to enjoy yourself.

Use this time to do something that makes you happy. You could read a book, listen to music, or enjoy a cup of coffee on the porch. Or, perhaps you could draw, paint, or assemble puzzles. If you’re a baker, you could make a delicious treat for later.

While some people wake up earlier and then rush off to work, use this time to do something you enjoy. You’ll notice just how much happier you are when your day starts off right.

2. Eat The Frog First

There’s a popular saying that goes, “Eat the frog first.” The basic gist of the saying is that you should do the things that you dread the most at the very beginning of the day.

When you arrive at work, make it a point to ‘eat the frog first’. This could mean writing up a report, updating the budget, or dealing with accounting issues. “Whatever it is, do that one thing first and it will likely help you feel less stressed throughout the day knowing you don’t still have your most dreaded task ahead of you,” Zip Schedules, a leader in online employee scheduling software, points out on their blog.

3. Turn Off the News

While many people enjoy turning on the evening news after they get home from work, the reality is that there isn’t much happiness in these stories. It’s all about war, terrorism, natural disasters, and political feuds. In reality, very few of the topics discussed on the news will actually have a tangible impact on your day. So, why immerse yourself in the negativity? Turn off the news and watch a sitcom, play a game, or read a book.

4. Compliment Others

There is something incredibly powerful about dishing out compliments. While compliments certainly make others feel good, they actually make the giver feel even better in many cases.

When you make it a priority to give compliments, you’re actively spending less time thinking about yourself and more time noticing the wonderful things around you. And when you open your eyes up and start thinking positively, you’ll notice that there’s actually a lot of good stuff happening.

5. Spend Time Outdoors

How many hours do you spend cooped up inside? Well, according to Amy Westervelt of Forbes, we spend around 90 percent of our time indoors. That’s pretty depressing!

According to research published in the Harvard Health Letter, spending time outdoors can actually have a tangible impact on your overall level of happiness. “Light tends to elevate people’s mood, and there’s usually more light available outside than in,” the report reads. “Physical activity has been shown to help people relax and cheer up, so if being outside replaces inactive pursuits with active ones, it might also mean more smiles.”

Discover The Happier You

We all have the right to be happy. For some of us, being cheerful comes naturally. However, for millions of people, happiness feels like it’s elusive and buried deep beneath the surface. The good news is that by developing positive habits and weeding the negativity out of your life, you can enjoy happier days – every day!

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Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and Ways to Improve Your Relationship With Your Parents

We look around us and we see that there are a number of people, who don’t get along well with their parents, which is sad but true. Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro explains that our parents are the ones that stay with us from the second we are born till the day they breathe their last, by all things been equal.

Nobody understands how big a blessing they are until they are gone. In this post Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro will discuss the top 7 ways you can improve your relationship with your parents.

Talking

Talking to your parents can have a significant effect on your relationship with them. One major sign that things are not going on well is when you cannot talk to your parents about things that bothers you. Talk to them more often and stay positive always.

Having an optimistic behavior in a relationship has a positive impact on both the involved parties. Always have a positive attitude around your parents by smiling whenever you see them or talking to them and showing that you care about them and their wellbeing. You will see this positive aura will be shown in their attitude towards you.

Respect

We are always taught at home and also in school to respect each other but we sometimes forget that when it comes to our own parents. We don’t always agree with our parents or their parenting style and being hot headed and young, we believe that we are always right.

We forget to register the fact that they were once kids too and probably went through the exact same thing. Our parents are wiser and more experienced than us and they deserve our respect. You will see that once you start treating your parents with respect, it will reflect in their actions and behavior towards you.

Imagine Things from their Perspective

Before initiating a bond of friendship, we get to know the other person. For that, we put ourselves in their shoes and see the world from their eyes. That helps us understand their point of view and take on life. This comes naturally and easily when talking about our friends.

This is much harder when it comes to our parents. When we’re angry with our parents, just take a second to pause and look at things from their perspective. They have thoughts, feelings and expectations just like the rest of us. Catering for those feelings will take your relationship with your parents to the next level.

Trust

One of the first steps to have a healthy relationship with anyone is trust. This is a two way street and goes both ways. Your parents want to have a strong relationship with you as much as you do, but they won’t take the first step unless you have completely earned their trust.

In order for them to trust you, you need to trust them first and believe that the decisions that they make are for our own good. Once that relationship of trust is formed, you will see that things will start flowing naturally. If you want to give gift then have a look on these best new beds.

Parents are Humans too

As kids, we always look up to our parents and believe that they can do no wrong. Then we get a little bit older and think that we know best. The first thing that we need to register is that our parents are humans too, very much like the rest of us. As humans, they have emotions too and can sometimes make mistakes.

They weren’t born as parents but they’re figuring it out for themselves and doing the best that they possibly can. Once you register this fact, your relationship with your parents will progress leaps and bounds.

Forgiveness

We have established the fact that our parents too can sometimes mistakes. That does not mean that we hold it against them. If we look back at our childhood, we’ll see that we made more mistakes than we can count, but our parents were always there to support and forgive us. Learn to have a forgiving heart and not hold grudges. This will do wonders for your relationship.

Keep Calm

Overreacting in delicate situations can really ruin a relationship. If you’re having an argument with your parents, try to stay calm or you might end up saying things you will regret later on. Just cool down for a moment, reaccess things and then calmly tell them how you feel. This will let your parents know that you are mature enough and they will pay more attention to what you have to say.

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Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and Why to Avoid Skipping Meals

We’ve all done it at least once or twice, says Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro . Skipping breakfast is probably the main contender when it comes to missing one of our meals in the day. Our rush in the mornings give us ample excuses to just leave the toast or cereal and make up for it at lunchtime. Maybe you do it so often now that you don’t even think about having breakfast anymore?

But how is this exactly affecting us? Often we probably don’t even think about it or we just think skipping a meal can be easily made up by eating more for our next meal – that this will somehow negate the lack of food and won’t be detrimental to our health. However, this isn’t the case. Skipping meals on a regular basis can have a huge negative affect on our bodies – some are obvious but some may be more of a surprise to those who think skipping meals is harmless.

With that being said, Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro gives 6 adverse effects of skipping that much-needed breakfast, lunch or dinner.

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1. Your Mood With Suffer Greatly

Probably one of the well-known results of skipping a meal is the affect it has on your mood. Yes, those blood sugar levels take a massive dive when you don’t replenish yourself with a meal and regularly missing meals triggers a stress response related to our body’s survival mode. When our energy reserves are near empty, we produce this stress response in order to be able to ready ourselves against danger but these sudden increased levels of stress hormones also cause outbursts, mental instability and even mild depression.

2. Affects Your Ability To Focus

The decrease in sugar levels not only affects your mood but also affects your ability to concentrate and focus on simple tasks. This is because our brain runs on glucose and the less glucose there is to help the brain function to the best of its ability, the more likely you are to have a decreased attention span. If you skip meals because you’re too busy and think you’re creating more time to be productive, then think again. Skipping that meal is only going to deteriorate your work performance in the short term, or if done regularly, in the long term too. So, don’t work through lunch or skip breakfast so you can get more work done – you’ll be more alert and focused if you chow down and fuel up.

3. You’re More Likely To Overeat

The more hungry you are, the more your brain is telling your body to fill up on food – even if you don’t need it. So the next time you eat after skipping a meal, you are more likely to overeat and consume more calories. Not only this, but you are more likely to reach for the junk food over healthy food meaning meals are bigger and more unhealthy just from skipping that earlier meal time.

4. You’re More Likely To Gain Weight

Not only are you more likely to gain weight through overeating, your body overcompensates by hanging on desperately to the energy in the food you do eventually eat; storing it stubbornly out of fear you will go through regular starvation periods. It’s basically messing with your metabolism and storing everything you eat as fat. So never think sneakily skipping breakfast, lunch or dinner will ever help you to lose weight. In fact, it will most likely have the opposite affect especially on a regular basis.

5. Your Appearance Will Start To Suffer

There’s no hiding from a bad diet of skipped meals. It will start to show on the outside through dry skin and flat, greasy, lifeless hair – even oral health can take a beating. We all need nutrients to keep our bodies in tip top condition and by skipping meals on a regular basis these much-needed nutrients diminish. Proteins are the building blocks for everything in the body and restricting these in your everyday diet will directly affect your looks. So just take vitamin supplements, I hear you say? Well, most vitamins are fat-soluble which means if you aren’t consuming enough fat they will be essentially null and void.

6. You Will Get Unwanted Stomach Problems

To show that having a restricting diet effects all areas of the body, your gut will start working ineffectively. Eating food on a regular basis is how our stomach, intestines and bowels manage to push it out in a regular and orderly fashion. By skipping meals our guts get confused and it can result in constipation and stomach aches which is a result of not passing stools regularly. This can affect your quality of life immensely if you change your eating habits too often or restrict fibre from your diet.

Too Busy To Eat?

If you do find your working day or busy lifestyle means you skip meals regularly, then hopefully reading the above points will help you to understand the potential damage you could be doing to yourself. However, there are ways to make life a little easier and get your essential meals in to your packed day.

Pre-make your breakfast or lunch the night before. You may feel exhausted before you head to bed but a simple 10 minutes could be all you need to make yourself a healthy breakfast ready to eat the next day. There are loads of great ideas to help you have a quick breakfast in the morning or lunch without scrimping on productive time.

When you have time to cook dinner make more than you need. This way you can freeze the leftovers and keep them for an evening when you don’t have time to cook.

Worst comes to worst, eat little and often. If you really don’t have time to sit down three times in a day and have a proper meal, then eat little and often throughout the day. Make sure you are getting enough to sustain yourself with the right amount of healthy nutrients. This will keep your metabolism ticking over, decrease hunger pangs, and stop you overeating.

The bottom line is: skipping a meal once in a while won’t harm you too much but doing this on a regular basis will ultimately decrease your mental and physical well-being and stop you from leading a happy life. So think twice before running out of the door with no breakfast – your body and mind will thank you for it.

by Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro

Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro and How to Use Stress to Your Advantage

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” — Sydney J. Harris

At one time or another, we all face stress, says Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro. While stress comes in different forms, it is a part of our lives. Many times when we think of stress, we tend to give it a negative connotation. But, wouldn’t it be helpful if we stopped fighting stress so much and actually used it to thrive in life? You know, give it a positive spin.

Well, here are 6 ways to use stress to your advantage:

1. Choose to have a positive attitude.

Let go of negative emotions and past mistakes. Allowing these things into your life on a regular basis will zap you of your energy and cause you to waste many mental hours holding on to them. Clean up messes, get help if you need it, and anchor yourself to some good cause.

Daniela Kaufer, associate professor at UC Berkeley did some research on the differences between good stress and bad stress. When it comes to ensuring, stress is beneficial rather than harmful, she said, “If you tend to have a positive attitude—a self-confident sense that you can get through a rough period—you’re more likely to have a healthy response than if you perceive stress as catastrophic.”

2. Embrace a new perspective.

Sometimes, we need to see our lives and our relationships differently. Stress is the perfect path to take to do that. Get a change of scenery, improve yourself, open your mind up to new opportunities. Start seeing things differently, and that burdened feeling you’ve got may just go away.

3. Learn to let go.

You were never meant to be in control of the world. The world will roll right on even if you take a break and even if you go on vacation and even if you drop off the face of the earth. Stress will make you take that break you really need if you let it. Release your grip on the steering wheel of life and free yourself to be out of control sometimes.

On the flip side, stress can make your life interesting at times. Dr. John Whyte, vice president of Discovery Channel’s Health and Medical Education, stated, “Challenges like asking someone out on a first date, facing and conquering a known fear, interacting with people you’ve never met, even learning something completely new — These may not immediately come to mind when you think of stressors — and maybe that’s because of the positive outcomes that come from them — but they’re the types that can help you achieve fulfillment, health, and happiness.”

4. Focus on certain aspects.

If you’re dealing with a big problem that is impossible to solve all at once, then don’t try to solve it all at once. Focus on one aspect at a time and deal with it little by little. Stress drains your energy and enthusiasm for work and creativity. Even if you’re not dealing with a problem, but a really big project. Take time to break it up and focus all in on one thing at a time.

5. Get good sleep.

So many things to do and so little time to do it in, so we sleep less and hustle more. That’s what we tend to do, but we shouldn’t. We’re not superhuman and we need a good night (or day, in some cases) of pure old sleep. Proper rest will give your mind and body time to clear out the negative vibes and prepare you to face the world brilliantly.

A 2013 survey of stress in the lives of Americans shows that most adults reported they were sleeping 6.7 hours each night, less than the 7 to 9 hours recommended. Additionally, many see their stress level increase when the quality and length of sleep decreases.

6. Share. Talk. Open up.

Stress can make us feel burnt out. When we’re burnt out, we really need to talk to someone, not curl up in a hole and cry. Share with someone close to you the things you’re dealing with. Opening up to a partner or close friend will help you clarify your problem, see things from a different point of view, and realize opportunities that may have been there all along, but you just didn’t see them.

UCLA psychology researchers found that men and women respond differently to stress. While men would tend to retire to their offices at work, women would tend to come together for lunch or just to talk. Surprisingly, they found through animal and human research, that while estrogen in women increases oxytocin, testosterone in men impedes it, thus allowing stress to increase compassion, sensitivity, and understanding in females.

Some stress is bad. But mostly, stress is good for us if we choose to make it our buddy and not our archenemy. When we’re not just coping with our stress, but actively working through our stress, we set ourselves up to thrive. And when we thrive, well, everyone is happy.

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” — William James

Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro explains: What Is Joint Tenancy With Right of Survivorship?

There are four recognized forms of property ownership: sole ownership and three forms of co-ownership referred to as joint tenancy, tenancy in common and tenancy by the entirety. Sole ownership, as the title indicates, means only one person owns all of the interest in the property. Each form of ownership has its own requirements, limitations, advantages and disadvantages. Understanding them up front will lessen the possibility of problems later on.

Sole ownership is the simplest form of ownership and allows for the greatest control over the property. A sole owner can sell the property, give it away, borrow against it or leave the property in a will. Because it is the simplest form of ownership, it usually does not create any estate planning issues. If you have a will, but do not name specific beneficiaries for property of which you have sole ownership, the property will be distributed based on the directives in your will. If you do not have a will, the property will be distributed according to the laws of intestate succession. Co-ownership means more than one person has a legal interest in the property.

What Does “Joint Tenancy” Mean?

A joint tenancy is created when you, and at least one other person, hold an undivided interest in a piece of property. Your joint tenant does not always have to be your spouse. For example, a bank account in both your name and your brother’s name is a joint tenancy. Another example may be a certificate of deposit with your name and the name of one of your children. As a joint tenant, you can sell or give away your interest in the property, as long as such action is not restricted by title or contract.

When a joint tenancy indicates that it includes “a right of survivorship,” the property is automatically transferred to the surviving joint tenant(s) if one joint tenant dies. This type of property cannot be transferred to anyone by a will.

Advantages to Joint Tenancy with Right of Survivorship

There are many advantages to executing a joint tenancy. It is more convenient, as the property becomes immediately available to the surviving joint tenant(s). Also, jointly owned property does not go through probate, which can greatly reduce the costs of probating an estate. Another big advantage is that joint tenant property is protected from creditors of the deceased joint tenant.

Disadvantages to Joint Tenancy with Right of Survivorship

As with most things, there are certain disadvantages to joint tenancies. Joint tenancies are not as easy to adjust in the event of a divorce or remarriage. Also, one joint tenant has the ability to liquidate an account without notifying the other joint tenants. Similarly, one joint tenant could sell a piece of the property even if the other tenant(s) did not want it to be sold. The person the property was sold to would become a “tenant in common.” However, in the case of married couples, a “tenancy by the entirety” requires the consent of both spouses when disposing of any such property.

By Marcelo Carvalho Cordeiro

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